“In the mid 90’s, as a 12 year old, I remember reading an article from the iconic Trends Magazine that really struck me. The first line of the article asked a question, ‘‘If you asked your child who their hero is, what answer would you get?”
I was just a child myself and the prospect of being a mother was so far removed. Yet, this question fascinated me. I knew what the ‘right’ and ‘Islamic’ answer should be from the ‘perfect’ child but what are the chances of an ordinary Muslim child naming the Prophet Ibrahim or Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon them, as their hero, instead of Spiderman or Superman? It seemed impossible to me.”
Read the rest of this article here: http://seekershub.org/blog/2016/02/making-the-prophet-real-for-your-kids/
Here is another article with some great ideas in here on making our Muslim heroes really come alive for our children, such as timelines, maps and models! http://blog.iiph.com/fun-activities-to-connect-children-to-muslim-heroes/
And i loved this:
A particularly apt message… as shared on WhatsApp:
*Avengers Vs Messengers*
Let’s teach our children:
Before Iron-Man, there was Dawood Alayhis Salaam, the one who could bend iron and metal with his bare hands.
Before Superman, there was Sulaymaan Alayhis Salaam, the one who could fly by controlling the winds.
Before Ant-Man – the one who enlarges to 60 feet tall, there was Aadam Alayhis Salaam who was created 60 feet tall.
[al-Bukhaari, 3336; Muslim, 7092]
Before Wolverine – the one who cures himself instantly, there was Esaa Alayhis Salaam, the one who could do one better and cure others instantlyby the will of Allaah.
Before Aquaman – the one who communicates with sea-creatures, there was Sulaymaan Alayhis Salaam who could communicate with ALL creatures.
It’s human nature to want a hero, albeit a super one. And if we fail to provide our children with the correct one, they will naturally fill that void with an imaginery one.
Alhamdulillah for a religion that has granted us real-life superheroes who not only serve as timeless and practical role-models we can follow, but also provide abundant guidance in regards to this world and the next, sufficing us the need to look elsewhere.
A really good article on how connecting with our children is a very Islamic way of parenting…
“What is empathic parenting?
Empathic parenting is based on the desire to raise individuals who are caring, compassionate and empathetic. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the emotions of another. The basic principle of empathic parenting stems from children’s ability to mirror the actions and qualities of the people around them. So, when children are surrounded by people who are respectful and calm, they will also take on these traits. This article will explain five benefits of empathic parenting and three ways to become a more empathic parent, in sha Allah. There is also a wealth of information on empathic parenting on websites and YouTube, where I also obtained my research.
But first and foremost, it was our beloved Prophet who taught us this quality…”
Read the full article here: http://productivemuslim.com/empathic-parenting-connect-emotionally-with-your-child/
We have previously done celebrating his birthday with a week of emulating his life here and here.
One mum did something similar, but in such an amazingly creative way! Check it out…
“Count down to the Holy Prophet’s khushali:
To make my kids learn and look forward to the Prophet’s birthday we made an advent calendar with 7 days of different activities.
We put together 7 tissue rolls and covered them with a coloured tissue. Each day had a learning activity about how the Prophet lived and how we could incorporate them in our daily lives. So in each tissue roll I put in a note of what they had to think about do.
Here’s what we did on each day:
1. We talked about the story of the Prophet and the sour grapes. How the poor man had brought the Prophet grapes and the Prophet ate them all himself and when the companions asked why he didn’t share he said they weren’t sweet and he didn’t want the poor man to feel sad if at all the companions made a face.
We learnt that we should share only what we like 🙂. I put in one tube of smarties for all to share!
2. We listed a few things that the prophet ate, eg. Dates, grapes, figs, honey,pomegranate, olive oil, etc. I put in some khajoor pak as a treat (because I didn’t have enough khajoor!)
3. Discussed how the prophet ate. I gave them a napkin each and asked them to write down how he ate so they can keep it with them at the table.
4. Talked about how the prophet slept.
I got the kids small emoji pillows and wrapped them up and kept them in their beds. On a piece of cloth I wrote down simple things that they can do before/when sleeping to remind them of the prophet. They then stitched the cloth on to the back of the pillow and keep it with them in bed! They made small tasbeehs at madressa which fit on perfectly with the pillow so it all stays together.
5. After getting all these little pressies and being excited, it was only fair to remember the sick and less fortunate. So today’s task was to do something to make someone else happy!
6. Cleanliness. The prophet was always smart and clean..
For this, I got the kids some small things to remember what the prophet carried with him to be clean at all times. I got a small towel, perfume, hairbrush with mirror and a toothbrush (in place of miswak) I didn’t put in the toothpick and scissors for safety reasons.
7. On the last day I cut up some stars and asked the kids to write down what they had learnt over the past week and then put the stars up on our tree (Shajaratul Tayyibah) :). We also hung up the ornaments from Buzz Ideazz for the Prophet and Imam Jaffer Sadiq (as)’s birthday after decorating them!”
“Shaykh Faraz Rabbani provides an excellent summary of how the Prophet (peace be upon him) and his Companions (may Allah be pleased with them) raised their own children and the children around them, beginning first with how the blessed community of the time was set up to support the sound upbringing of the youth. In an ever-challenging world, when the gap between parents and their offspring appear wider than ever before, this reminder couldn’t have come soon enough.”
To access the podcast, click here: http://seekershub.org/podcast/2015/08/16/prophet-raised-children/
Lots of good advice…
“If we use our actions as teaching tools by consistently modeling and demonstrating behaviors we want our children to follow, it will not only benefit them, but it will also benefit our own personality and spirituality as well…
Rather than tell children what to do, he would show them through his own actions. When teaching his young helper, Anas Ibn Malik radi Allahu ‘anhum (may Allah be pleased with them), the value of giving “salaam” (greeting of peace), the Prophet ﷺ made sure he was the first to give the “salaam” to Anas. When he wanted to teach a young man to lower his gaze around a pretty girl, the Prophet ﷺ moved the boy’s head away from the view of the girl with his hand rather than say anything reprimanding or embarrassing. When he wanted to teach children to be loving and kind, he would rub and kiss their heads and say a kind word to them. When he wanted to teach respect, he would stand up and give his seat to his daughter Fatima when she would visit him. He actually said very little to the children around him. He let them learn through his example as he knew that made a much greater impression on children than complicated words they may not quite understand or appreciate at their age. The Prophetic model of guidance had a tremendous effect on the children around him. Until the age of 103, Anas ibn Malik would still recall his time with the Prophet ﷺ, and made sure he practiced those lessons himself.”