“If we use our actions as teaching tools by consistently modeling and demonstrating behaviors we want our children to follow, it will not only benefit them, but it will also benefit our own personality and spirituality as well…
Rather than tell children what to do, he would show them through his own actions. When teaching his young helper, Anas Ibn Malik radi Allahu ‘anhum (may Allah be pleased with them), the value of giving “salaam” (greeting of peace), the Prophet ﷺ made sure he was the first to give the “salaam” to Anas. When he wanted to teach a young man to lower his gaze around a pretty girl, the Prophet ﷺ moved the boy’s head away from the view of the girl with his hand rather than say anything reprimanding or embarrassing. When he wanted to teach children to be loving and kind, he would rub and kiss their heads and say a kind word to them. When he wanted to teach respect, he would stand up and give his seat to his daughter Fatima when she would visit him. He actually said very little to the children around him. He let them learn through his example as he knew that made a much greater impression on children than complicated words they may not quite understand or appreciate at their age. The Prophetic model of guidance had a tremendous effect on the children around him. Until the age of 103, Anas ibn Malik would still recall his time with the Prophet ﷺ, and made sure he practiced those lessons himself.”
“While I still think about this question a lot, I started doing something very simple with my daughter in the hopes that I would raise her with a more accurate and holistic definition of beauty. When she does something kind like share her toys or her food with others, I tell her “you’re beautiful.” When she is helpful to me or others, I tell her “you’re beautiful.” When she remembers to say please and thank you, and Bismillah and Alhamdulillah, I tell her “you’re beautiful.””
“Children are a product of our society and the most valuable asset of our future. We, as adults, greatly influence how a child feels and behaves. We have the power to motivate and inspire them. We need to create a positive image about learning about our deen. The only way to achieve this is by leading by example. As a parent, you will have very little impact on your child’s want to learn if you do not make the effort to do the same.”
Love this! He doesn’t tell her to shush, or ignore her, or treat her as if she is a nuisance, and she is totally at peace 🙂 Many lessons in this for us on how to treat our children, especially at mosques.
“The biggest influence in the lives of babies and toddlers are their parents and immediate family; however, as pre-schoolers, they meet and interact with teachers and other kids in their class/playground and learn a lot more about the world they live in. In these interactions, they also encounter many thoughts and values that oppose those that that they have been taught so far. It is important that Muslim parents continue their efforts to bond their children with Allah and His deen (religion) at this age.
The 3 to 5 year old stage is a stage of exploration and creativity, hands-on learning, and experimentation. It is a great age to help your children connect further with Allah by helping them learn about their deen through fun and activity-based learning. Continue with the ideas you have been using since they were infants and toddlers such as listening regularly to the Qur’an, incorporating various Sunnah practices in daily life, and telling them that Allah loves them. Add the following activities to reinforce your teachings…”