– Having some Islamic games available for them to play with (siblings are ideal here!) – some examples are Islamic Slides and Ladders, The Prophet’s Game, Brain Quest, Salaat Cards, (all available from www.buzzideazz.com), the Tasbih Game, the Ramadan board game (shared earlier), etc…
– Having some Islamic cartoons/programmes ready for them to watch (Inshallah am planning to cover this as a series soon!
-Get them to think about Sura Qadr in a fun way! A mum sent this: “For Laylatul Qadr we have created a balloon tree. We have a question about Suratul Qadr written in each balloon. The kids will pop the balloon and answer the question – and will receive a small treat for each correct answer!”
Any other ideas out there?
P.S. Loved this idea of amalgamating things into a Laylatul Qadr Gift Box by Islam from the Start:
“Seeing all the lovely welcome Ramadhan baskets, made to instill the excitement for the blessed month, inspired me to put together a simple Laylatul Qadr Box for the little one. Along with the main A’maal book are a few treats and activities to keep him busy through the night. There’s two new books, ‘A Picnic of Poems: In Allah’s Green Garden’ which comes with a CD, and ‘The Adventures of Captain Alif And The Stormy Sea’. It’s a gift pack set and comes with a tasbeeh and dua bookmark. There’s also a T-Shirt and some fabric markers to make a personalised top illustrating what Laylatul Qadr means to him. And finally after reading on QFatima about it being a night to show appreciation to those close to you, there’s a special letter written for the little one. InshaAllah, I hope the Qadr box will help to leave a positive lasting memory of this blessed night, one spent in His remembrance with love.”
Sometimes, it can be quite hard to get the balance right in terms of ensuring our children realise the value of the nights and benefit from it, and our own personal responsibilities. So how can we ensure this balance is maintained?
One way is to prepare the necessary materials for them, but then to leave them to it! Here is what one mum said:
“The last two Laylatul Qadr nights have come and gone, and one thing I realised quite early on is that if our children are staying up (or trying to), they can take up quite a lot of our time… while I was trying to help them with all the little bits and bobs (as well as answer questions, get them comfortable, etc), I was also very conscious of the precious minutes ticking away.
So tonight I am going to dedicate a little time to them to get them started, but then I am going to leave them to it, whatever they choose to do. Because tonight is about me and my God. Inshallah they will have many years ahead of them to benefit from this awesome night, but right now they are not even baaligh yet and it is MY responsibility to pray for them tonight.
The balance between helping them and helping ourselves is hard, and may Allah give us the tawfeeq to get it right! May we utilise this night to the max, and may we feel the ‘Salaam’ coming down on us Inshallah.”
Here is an excellent resource for mums to prepare:
Here is one way to ensure that the precious time during the nights of Qadr do not get wasted!
Created by Zakira Ummi Merali (QFatima), I have adopted its use to make it a bit more child-friendly – use according to your child’s age! Older children will be staying up longer and so will be able to do more, and so on… but remember, it’s QUALITY not quantity! Don’t force too much on them. Even if they want to stay up but not do the activities and just read, that’s OK – it’s a balance…
This is just a preview of the Time management sheet – to download and print, see the dropbox link below. TIME MANAGEMENT FOR LAYLATUL QADR – 19th Night of RAMADHAN – 17th July, 2014
9.21pm – Maghrib and Isha Salaat – IFTAR (eat light!) Give SADQA
10.30pm – Duas and Amaal
1.30am – Recite Sura Qadr/Dua ‘Ahad (Nur), have sehri, do ghusl and pray the Night Prayer Give SADQA
2.49am – Fajr Salaat and Recite Quran This is witnessed as per 17:78 – “Indeed the dawn recital is attended [by angels].”
5.06am – Sunrise – do one last sajdah and then go to sleep! Give SADQA
SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES (to fill in the empty boxes of time): • Write down a list of things you are grateful for • Write down a list of things you are sorry about • Write down a list of people to pray for • Write down a list of your duas for the year ahead • Think about your goals for yourself for the year ahead – break it down into physical goals, spiritual goals, mental goals and emotional goals • Think about all the things that may be stopping you from these goals • Do a craft activity on Laylatul Qadr • Write a letter to the 12th Imam • Read a book about the Imams • Do an Islamic workbook • Go into Sajdah and just talk to Allah
As the biggest night approaches quickly, just have a question for all mums out there. As it is holidays for most, and with summer nights being shorter, many children are staying up until Fajr, or as much as possible.
Once back from mosque with main amaals done, what do your children do? Once mine have thought about and written their duas and done a bit, I encourage them to read or look at the Islamic books/stories we have at home to help pass the time…would love any other suggestions?
P.S. When asked this on facebook, here is a great reply I got: “We design and handmake eid cards, prep and do eid poster and wrap eid gifts and goodies, meanwhile keep jawshane kabeer playing in the background… Or any other dua… We also try baking treats at night… For older kids – watching movies from shiasource.com, such as Yusuf , or doing salatul Layl…”