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Idea 15: Make a ‘gift’ pack from ziyarat together

Idea 15: Make a ‘gift’ pack from ziyarat together

Idea 15: Make a ‘gift’ pack from Ziyarat together

Last but not least, one of the customs for zawwaar is to buy things from this holy trip for family and friends back home who were not lucky enough to be there!

Why not include your children in this process of choosing the right things for the right person, including their friends. Then once home, make it extra-special by encouraging/helping them to write a little note to go with it, explaining why they are giving those things and the significance behind the items.

Inshallah, it will give it that personal touch, as well as making it very meaningful for both, giver and recipient.

It may also reinforce the importance of giving gifts in Islam, for the Prophet (saw) has said: “A gift brings about affection, reinforces brotherhood, and removes grudges. Give gifts to each other and you will love each other.” (Bihar al-Anwar, v. 77, p. 166, no. 2)

* That concludes this series for now! Would love to know of any other ideas that anyone going to ziyarat this year had, once you get back Inshallah…

* And on the off-chance that anyone is reading this while there, Iltemase Dua!

Idea 14: Make a dua list

Idea 14: Make a Dua List

One thing that EVERYONE asks a zawwaar is to pray for them, and often many zawwaar make a list of people they want to pray for, or people that have asked them to pray for them, etc.

Why not have your child make their own list? They might surprise you with who they put down! It could be part of their diary/journal, or a separate thing altogether…

Idea 12: Make a will with them

Idea 12: Make a will with them

Idea 12: Make a will with them

Making a will is also something adults do before they go, in case anything happens during the trip. This is something that is highly encouraged in Islam at all times anyway, as death can befall us at any time and any age – something which the recent tragic events in Dar-es-Salaam have reminded us of again starkly 🙁

Perhaps the trip to ziyarat is a good time to introduce the concept of preparing for our inevitable end…

Maybe sit down with the children and make a will with them; again adjust according to their capabilities, from deciding who gets their toys and clothes, to any prayers/fasts that may be pending.

For younger children, maybe make it a fun activity, with the whole rolling up of the will, tying with a ribbon, sealing with candle and all that…as long as the concept of preparation is introduced, it doesn’t need to be morbid!

It may bring on a serious discussion on death however, which is a whole other series in itself i think. Would love to hear from parents who have approached the issue with their children and any tips on how to do this?

 

Idea 11: Encourage them to make amends

Idea 11: Encourage them to make amends

Idea 11: Encourage them to make amends

Tying up loose ends, paying any debts, asking for forgiveness and basically trying to clean the slate are things all zawwaar do before they embark on this trip, to try and make the trip as spirituallybeneficial as possible…

What if we encouraged our children to do the same, according to their capabilities? They can say sorry for anything they may have done to their siblings, cousins, friends, etc (perhaps after sitting and reflecting and making a list), return any books or toys or money they may have borrowed, and ensure that any pending things they need to do are completed!

As they grow older, the understanding and level at which they do this will change, but inshallah even at a young age, they can have an awareness of these concepts among others…

– accountability for their actions
– the importance of making amends
– how actions affect how close they can get to Allah
– the importance of returning amanat
– the importance of fulfilling any tasks they have

And finally, it may even hopefully make saying sorry in general that wee bit easier!